The average person checks their phones over 155 times a day
Imagine what that number looks like now, especially since we have been on lockdown!
- Go to your phone's settings
- Under Digital Wellbeing and Parental Controls Look for Tools
- Tap Show your Data
The free app, AntiSocial tracks total usage on social media, texting, listing to music, and much more. You can even compare your cell phone usage with other users all over the world.
With all of the technology in the world, there are all sorts of ways to check break habits that can easily become addictions. Addictions are not always as extreme as the external drugs and alcohol elements, but others that we have accepted as daily habits.
The first step is to get to know yourself.
Having a habit is great, until it is excessive and harmful. The socially acceptable behaviors such as exercise, love, video gaming, shoppings, internet usage, eating, or risky behaviors that lead to feeling euphoria if they have to be repeated. Do any of the behaviors you have have to be repeated?
Have others made comments to you?
Most of the time if a behavior is excessive or potentially dangerous someone is going to notice. The issue with the socially acceptable addictions are that people will think they are being intrusive if they intervene. But, if they are able to push past the uncomfortable feeling of letting you know that something you are doing is concerning, it may be wise to listen and observe what it is that seems concerning.
Are there any negative consequences?
All of which feel so good, that we reach for them when we are feeling bad. The immediate reaction to pain is to get right out of it, fast. So we build compulsions to the behavior. It is a learning style that builds over time. The urges that are built can then lead to cravings. The cravings feel like hunger which turns into the inability to restrain yourself. Your life is then set up around the addiction.
What to do to prevent excessive behavior.
1. Build healthy relationships.
This is key to everything. You definitely want someone in your life who knows how to motivate you. And maybe the same, or another person who can let you know that a behavior you have is not healthy. This has to be someone you trust
2. Give yourself some structure.
Have a time set aside to bask in your habit, as long as it is not unsafe. Cut back on the time you spend on the behavior if you have to. But do not go beyond your time limits. And do not spend x amount of money on it. Place your behavior/habit on a budget.
3. Track yourself.
We are fixed by numbers. If we see them we often will remember them. There are apps that help you track your habits and processes. You can see the amount of time you spend thinking about or spending on the behavior. Have it set to remind you to check it.
4. Give yourself a Break.
You are human!!! Please remember that. You will make mistakes and you are not perfect. Try and try and try again. You are trying to unlearn a behavior that you taught yourself. Some habits feel great, and are going to be tiresome to try to fix. Refer to the point number 1 at all times
Sometimes we need encouragement and reinforcement!
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